directed by Adrian Choa

In the past, men were writing poems, serenading under the balcony, waiting for hours with flowers for their love interest… and now they call women “dishwashers” and feel offended about paying for a coffee on a date. Welcome to our reality. I mean, I get it, not everyone is a romantic type and times change, yadda yadda yadda. However, the idea of masculinity has evolved into something absurd and dangerous. We may have a laugh that those “alpha males” are ridiculous, but they have a huge power – the influence. Millions of boys follow such coaches and “experts” in order to learn how to be a real man. A real man? What’s the definition of that? Because if being a real man means being a rude asshole who disrespects everyone and has absolutely no reflection about his own actions, then yes, those influencers will surely teach you that. Louis Theroux, a journalist, decides to explore the world of those masculinity icons. We get to see a clash of two worlds, because Louis doesn’t seem to have much in common with his interviewees. What I saw in this documentary isn’t much surprising, because I’m a woman who’s been dealing with men her whole life. The fact they try to show dominance by being disrespectful towards women is quite common. Having high expectations about their partners/lovers, but absolutely none about themselves – also well-known. Focusing on their appearance and image instead of working on their personalities, emotional intelligence or competences – classic! All the men presented in this documentary represent this group and you can see how unaware they are of their actions. Not only women are affected by their toxicity, but also other men who struggle with their self-confidence. I guess the most iconic moment of the documentary is when the mother of one of those men is defending her son and claims that he would never say or do anything bad… and then her son says he would totally do that. The face of that woman is priceless. And I’m not even laughing at that – it’s in fact hurtful. A mother, blindly supporting her child, realising that her perfect boy is nothing like that. The documentary itself isn’t anything spectacular, but I’m glad this problem is analysed and shared widely. Maybe someone will take a moment and reflect on it. Either it’s a woman, a man, a boy, a mother or literally anyone.
My rating: 7/10
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