directed by Laurent Micheli

What would you do if your child told you they want to change their gender? I know a lot of people who say it’s just a phase or that it’s ridiculous and such children need help. There are also those who say that it’s absolutely okay for people to be transgender as long as those aren’t their own children. I’m not sure what’s worse – hating or ignoring. However, if you find it difficult to accept trans people, I recommend you to see this film. It tells the story of Lola (Mya Bollaers), who’s 18 and transgender. She’s not living with her parents since her father couldn’t tolerate his own son wishing to be a woman. One day, Lola’s mother dies and the girl and her father Philippe (Benoît Magimel) have a chance to see each other at her funeral. The man still cannot accept Lola’s decision and those two can’t communicate, even now. Catherine, the mother, had one last wish – she wanted her ashes to be dispersed to the North Sea. Both Philippe and Lola want to fulfil the wish, but at the same time they can’t stand each other. However, since they’re both horribly stubborn, they finally go together in a car full of hate, contempt and anger. First of all, I think both actors did a really good job and I was surprised that it was Mya’s debut on the big screen. Very promising! Second of all, I like productions where we have a chance to learn about both sides of the conflict. It’s not a film saying “you should all go and change your gender and people who don’t accept that are assholes”. Not at all. It shows how difficult it is for both the child and the parent. For the child, it’s a way to feel good in their body, to finally discover themselves. For the parent, it may feel like some kind of defeat, that they failed raising them or made some mistake. Both are scared and unsure about the situation, so the point is to communicate and make sure there’s mutual support. If you want to change your gender, obviously, it’s your choice and your body, but it’ll affect your loved ones, so don’t push them away from this process. If your child makes such decision, discuss with them as much as possible to make sure you both feel well. This film is a big bowl of food for thought and I hope a lot of you will decide to see it.
My rating: 6/10
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